One Year into the Adoption Process

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August marked one year since we filled out our application and officially began our journey to adopt from South Korea.

It’s been a while since I’ve updated on where we are on in the process to bring Eli home.  If you’ve been following our adoption timeline: we were matched in April, sent all of our completed paperwork (dossier) in May, and have been waiting ever since to be “EP submitted.”  Waiting 116 days to be exact.

Where are we now?

Eli’s file will be submitted to the Ministry of Health for his Exit Permit (or Emigration Permit) which grants him legal permission to leave the country and officially starts the ball rolling to custody.  After we are submitted, we will have a better “estimated” timeline (based on previous trends from our agency) of when we might be traveling!

Currently, our agency estimates the typical time frame at 4-6 months from dossier sent to EP submission.  Our dossier was sent early May, which puts us with possible submission any day now.  I’ve learned, from following other adoption blogs, that this timeline has been trending slightly faster (about 3-4 months) so we were really hoping to be submitted already.

A few other families that are on similar timelines as us received their notifications the last week of August.  I’d be lying if I said my heart doesn’t grow restless daily with every minute that ticks closer to 5pm.  (5pm PST = offices closed = no news for the day.)

It’s been a rough few weeks for my type-A, plan-all-the-things, recovering-control-freak, Mama heart.  I’ve had to constantly remind myself to focus on His purpose, not my plans, not my prize.  I’ve been praying for movement, strength, and peace on repeat.  Movement in the courts, strength in the wait, peace for all the families involved (ours, foster, and birth).

God has been so faithful and has used countless ways to pull me back in- a song, a sermon, an encouraging word from a friend, a quote on a stranger’s Instagram… but this past week He has been damn near beating me upside the head with undeniably divine reminders that this is all according to His plan… on His timeline… for His glory and my good.

I had been trying to fill my time by staying busy (working, shopping, binging reality tv) instead of resting in His promises and His word.  As I was checking out at HomeGoods, this was on the shelf… eye level… right in front of my face:

Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Ephesians 6:10

The same verse that God has led me back to over and over again throughout our adoption journeyOkay, God, I see you.

I had texted that same friend about my anxious feelings earlier that same day.  She encouraged me to get in the Word and pointed me to Proverbs 19 because it had spoke to her that morning in her quiet time.

Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails. Proverbs 19:21

If that gentle push wasn’t enough, He made it loud and clear the next day when this popped up as my “verse of the day” in the Bible app:

Okay, God, I hear you.

Where are we now? 

Learning to trust in the wait.

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